We have to love some people from a distance. No matter how much we care and want to be involved in their lives. There comes a time when we must disconnect.
It is hard to watch someone we love follow a path of destruction when we think we know a better way. Sometimes, our way might be the best way for us but not the best way for that person.
This is where the lesson of empathy comes in.
Empathy is the ‘capacity’ to share and understand another’s ‘state of mind’ or emotion. It is often characterized as the ability to “put oneself into another’s shoes”, or in some way experience the outlook or emotions of another being within oneself.
If we all practice empathy then a lot of the disagreements and heartaches that we have would never exist. It is hard to be unselfish sometimes and put the other person first. (None of us “know it all” and none of us is always right). How many times have you wished that someone would just walk a mile in your shoes so that they could understand what you are going through or at least try to see things your way? How many times have you felt misunderstood? Well , before you cast a judgment, try to understand what they are going through first. Try to do for them what you would like them to do for you.
Of course, they might be wrong but you must give them a chance and try to see things their way. You may just pave a clearer path by using the principle of Reductio ad absurdum.
Reductio ad absurdum ( “reduction to the absurd”), also known as an apagogical argument, reductio ad impossibile, or proof by contradiction, is a type of logical argument where one assumes a claim for the sake of argument and derives an absurd or ridiculous outcome, and then concludes that the original claim must have been wrong as it led to an absurd result.
In other words, you prove that something is true by showing how the opposite is false. (If I can show you how ridiculous, destructive your behaviors are, and what the eventual ramifications of your actions are, then you will begin to see things clearer right?)
In all fairness,we should all practice to walk in someone else’s shoes, (even if they are not Pradas)