Everything in life is about balance. We must balance our friendships with our personal relationships. We must find a balance between work and play. We must balance our checkbooks (or not) and we must balance our temperament and how we present ourselves to the world.
We sometimes struggle to find balance in things. We struggle to find a place for everything under the sun and sometimes to find our very own space in the this vast space.
How do we strike a balance and find our own niche..our own rhythm of life? How do we find methods to the everyday madness?
You must first be present and accepting of what life may bring. Once we have simplified our lives and cleaned out our emotional closet, its time for us to evolve and increase our emotional IQ.
Our emotional intelligence represents an ability to validly reason with emotions and to use emotions to enhance thought.
Let us dissect the term.
emotion refers to a feeling state that conveys information about relationships. For example, happiness is a feeling state that also conveys information about relationships — typically, that one would like to join with others. Similarly, fear is a feeling state that corresponds to a relationship — the urge to flee others.
intelligence refers to the capacity to reason validly about information
Emotional intelligence refers to an ability to recognize the meanings of emotion and their relationships, and to reason and problem-solve on the basis of them. Emotional intelligence is involved in the capacity to perceive emotions, assimilate emotion-related feelings, understand the information of those emotions, and manage them.
So the four key points to consider are as follows:
- Accurately perceive emotions in oneself and others
- Use emotions to facilitate thinking
- Understand emotional meanings
- Manage emotions
To be emotionally intelligent one must cultivate the ability to better perceive emotions. Once we can identify the thoughts and feelings that emerge we must then use them in thought, understand their meanings, and manage these emotions.
The highly emotionally intelligent person tends to be more open to the flow of information and more agreeable
The higher our emotional intelligence the less likely we are to engage in problem behaviors, and avoid self-destructive, negative behaviors ( which I don’t have to outline here)
The higher Emotionally Intelligent person is more likely to have positive social interactions and the higher degree of aspirations and goals.
Ultimately we will learn to better adapt to the vicissitudes of life and strike a balance between the yin and the yang. We will eventually learn to be more comfortable, even in the face of uncertainty.
Cultivate your emotional intelligence!
You are outstretched
My fingers find your hand
lips find mine
For a moment I feel your heart
You let go
while still holding me close
Bathed in half-light
beauty shines through
warm in this cocoon
Last nights loneliness
Lies naked and cold
Thank you Juliet for inspiration to write this piece